Wedding invitation politics
Published: 29 Jun 2012 - in invitations
Your wedding day is one of the happiest days of your life, but that doesn’t mean that the planning process is without stresses and strains. One of the most difficult aspects of wedding planning is compiling your guest list.
Before you get down to the complicated task of listing who to invite, it’s important to make sure you and your fiancé are on the same page. Make sure you know what sort of wedding he has in mind, and figure out how to make that work with your dream wedding. If one of you wants a massive do with everyone you’ve ever met invited, and the other wants a small, family-only affair, then it needs to be figured out now.
Once you’ve decided what sort of wedding you want, and how many guests you want to invite, it’s time to get down to planning your guest list. It’s very important to consider your budget when planning the guest list; it’s a good idea to get a ballpark figure of how much you can expect to pay per head from different venues, so you know roughly what to expect. Only invite an amount you can afford, and take into consideration the size of your venue and how many people it can hold too.
It’s a good idea to make two lists when planning your wedding guest list. On the first list, write down the names of everyone you couldn’t imagine not having at your wedding, then on the second write down those who you’d like to attend but could cope without. Once you’ve figured out the cost of the first list, if there’s room to invite some from the second you can add them on. You can also add people from the second list if any guests decline to attend.
Discuss with your fiancé about whether you want children in attendance, or whether any exes should be invited. This might seem like a difficult conversation, but it’s better to have it as soon as possible, particularly if one of you is good friends with an ex.
It might seem difficult to not include some people, but at the end of the day it is your wedding and you should be able to just invite those that you want. Be confident about who you don’t want at the wedding; distant family you never see, old acquaintances who drink too much and get embarrassing, people who are likely to make horrible remarks, or people from work who you don’t socialize with. Be strict, it will save you money and make you happier on your wedding day if you don’t have to worry about your great-aunt’s snide remarks or your third cousin getting too drunk and crying.